CS07-ControllingAnger |
The youngster was prone to anger, and his angry words and actions
troubled both his parents and those close to him. In an effort to
help him manage his anger, his father gave him a bag full of nails
and instructed him to drive the nails into the wooden fence in the
backyard every time he felt angry.
The boy followed his father's advice and quickly used up all the
nails. At this point, his father provided him with another bag of
nails. The boy continued to drive nails into the wooden fence, and
over time, he noticed a decrease in his anger and an improvement in
his ability to control his emotions. He shared his progress with his
father, who then suggested that he remove the nails from the wooden
fence.
The boy followed his father's guidance and found that he no longer
experienced anger while removing the nails. Witnessing this positive
change in his son's behavior, the father spoke to him, saying, "You
have gained control over your anger. Did you also notice the damage
you caused to the wooden fence when you drove the nails into it?
Those holes marred the beauty of the wooden fence. In a similar way,
the angry words, like the nails, inflict harm on others, even though
you have learned to control your anger. The emotional distress
caused by those angry words is akin to the damage from the holes
left by the nails on the wooden fence, and these wounds can fester
in others. You should never exhibit this behavior again in your
life."
In summary:
1.
Anger is comparable to a knife.
2.
Just as a person carries scars from a knife wound for life, angry
words can leave lasting scars in the mind.
3.
Similarly, the impact of angry words can be enduring. |